Thursday, November 20, 2008

thanks for the cookie

I know it's happened to you before.

You're out grocery shopping with the kids.

Then someone makes a seemingly innocent comment on the amount of kids you have and what?! you're expecting another?! But the undertones of that innocent comment are smothered with deprecating insults.

That was me today. I was stopping by the bakery at Fred Meyer for the free cookie for Lily and Blake. And this is what I get,

her: "Wwoooow...Well, aren't you two cute. AND you're having another one?!"

me: "Yep. And the oldest is in kindergarten."

her, incredulously looking at me: ((again with the wow)) "Wwoooow....you sure have your crazy hands full. And just think of what it's going to be like when this one comes. Don't you think you should stop while you're ahead?"

Her insults weren't really buried.

me: "Nah....and I think we'll have one more after this next crazy one comes."

You should have seen the look of disgust and disbelief she had on her face. By this time the kids had been handed their cookie and I strolled off towards the produce section.

What's with people and their comments?

10 comments:

Stan and Jamie said...

That is too funny, totally rude, but funny! You just have to laugh don't you? What else can you do really...actually I think your response was perfect! :)

Puhlman said...

Oh this is so familiar to me. In fact, when we lived in Ellensburg I took the kids for a walk in our wagon. The older ones rode their bikes. I was pregnant with Mayah. Someone walking their dogs asked me, "all they all yours". UM, Noooooooo I just happened to bring all the neighhood kids on a walk. HELLO. I didn't really say it but I sure wanted to. People can be so rude. YOu should see how many looks we get over here. There are hardly ANY families with alot of kids. OH WELL. They are the ones missing out.

The Dillon 6 said...

even OUR parents got those comments...My mom used to say just what Puhlman was thinking, "No, I just enjoy being surrounded by the neighborhood children." DUH.

Shake it off and move forward...you are doing God's work.

Jill and Joel Gibb said...

haha!! isnt that so true!! people feel like they can say that kind of stuff!! its not like you had 10 kids or anything...but still!! Oh and by the way the cookies/brownie things you gave us for dessert when you brought dinner over were AMAZING!! i need/want the recipe!!

Beth Tunnell said...

She probably just wants socialized medical and is worried your kids are going to crowd up the system. Maybe you can see her a couple days after the baby comes and tell her you are already trying for another.

Tina and Dan said...

That is so funny! I can't believe people think they have the liberty to say things like that. Once my aunt got that question and she said "No", and watched the relief on the woman's face than said, "their just these kids that always follow me around and call me mom" (in a sarcastic tone). She liked to see the next reaction - She DID have 10 kids!

Emily and Nathan said...

You have to love it when people think they can say whatever they want.

The Riners said...

I think you should have slapped her. If she can say what she wants you can slap her if you want. I don't think i will be so nice when this happens to me.

Candi said...

I had an old man at Les Schwab yesterday tell me he had been married 60 years and has 7 children. He then said he loves his kids but if he had it to do over he would have never had that many. His reasoning.. "it's hard in the world today".
It's so sad that so many just don't get it. I say "Keep them coming"! You, not me.

Joshua and Jolie said...

Have you ever seen that Farside comics t-shirt where it shows God, wearing a chef's hat, standing in his kitchen making the earth? It reminds me of this experience you had.
God has a globe of the earth sitting in a baking pan. Behind him, on a spice rack, are a bunch of spice shakers. One says "Americans", another says "Japanese", and so on.
The shaker in God's hand reads "Jerks". He is shown sprinking the earth with the Jerks shaker and the caption below the illustration reads: "This oughta make things more interesting".

I think this woman came from that shaker.

I have had my run ins with obnoxious people like her too. But I've also had times when people are so nice and understanding. Just today I was at Fred Meyer's with all 3 of the kids and as I was loading up the troop in the van this nice older man and his wife offered to put away my cart for me! Which was nice 'cause I'd parked a mile away from those cart racks. He smiled and said, "Looks like you're a busy lady!"
I'm guessing that they must've had at least a few kiddos of their own.